How to Give a Woman Great Oral Sex

How To Go Down on Her
The Art of Oral Sex on a Woman

Giving great oral sex means knowing your partner's likes and dislikes which is made much easier through communication. This may seem like an awkward thing to discuss, but done in the right way, it can simply turn into talking dirty to one another and make things even hotter.

Saying things like "I love when you flick your tongue like that," or "I love the way you feel in my mouth, do you like when I do this... or this... baby?" can make things hotter as well as informative.

Preparation For Oral Sex

Taking a moment to clean up before oral sex is always a good idea as it can prevent Urinary Tract Infections and make things more carefree once done. The following are some quick tips on how to go about doing this-

Clean Your Hands
You will want to wash hands well to make sure that you do not introduce harmful bacteria into the vagina or introduce it into the urethra. This applies to both the giver and receiver as often women will play with themselves while receiving oral stimulation and they too should have clean hands.

Avoiding A Urinary Tract Infection (UTI)
Unfortunately, there can be some negative side affects to making contact with the urethra.

The urethra is sensitive and is easily irritated. It is fairly easy to expose the urethra to bacteria that is harmful and thus often results in a UTI. The activity that can cause a UTI can be sexual or non sexual.

Any sexual activity that makes contact with the urethra whether it is from fingers, a sex toy, the mouth, the penis, etc. can result in painful urination and infection. To help prevent infections and reduce the chances of irritation, a woman should drink lots of water and urinate just before and right after urethral stimulation. Taking precautions such as washing whatever is going to come into contact with the urethra beforehand may assist in preventing such an infection. If an infection occurs it is easily treated with antibiotics. If left untreated the infection can become more serious and spread into the kidneys.

Shorten Finger Nails
Trim fingernails before going down as using fingers is common and this is done, so as to not cause pain or tears.

Atmosphere
Creating a relaxing atmosphere can also include doing some sensual foreplay. Get into the mood doing such activities as: massage, using sweet or spiced body lotions or oils, soft kissing, a bubble bath, and many other creative ventures.

Cleaning Your Anus
While you may not be thinking about it now, women who are going to receive cunnilingus should clean their anus as well as the vaginal opening. This is because the vagina and anus are extremely close together and sexual activity can easily bring harmful bacteria to enter the urethra causing an infection.

Try to clean your anus thoroughly with hot, soapy water before any anal activities. A great alternative are baby wipes, in fact, a strippers technique, many people use them instead of toilet paper for clean up after any bowel movement.

Psychological Issues For A Woman

There are many women who love the beauty of their vaginas from the way they look to the way the smell, however many women also feel negatively about their "love flowers."

If you are with a woman and planning on performing oral sex on her she may need reassurance that her genitals are beautiful, unique and a real turn on for you. Sex will be more pleasurable for her if she is relaxed and feels you are turned on by what you are doing.

For those of you receiving a lapping of your labia, let me assure you that all women get self conscious of their vaginal area once in a while. Just like men worry about how big their penis is; women worry about how tight they are. We also worry about whether our partner would prefer us shaved or au natural and finally the biggest concern for most women is the smell factor.

Now, there are many who would like to assure you that you should just accept when you aren't your freshest and so should your partner, but honey, I can assure you that washing up before hand if you are experiencing bad odor will make the experience better for all involved. If it is really bad and has been going on for a few weeks even after washing you may have an infection and it is time for a trip to your OBGYN.

ALL women's vaginal scent will change during different times of the month... it is normal and natural. However, if your arm pit was having an "off" day you would use some common sense and shower using soap and maybe even use some deodorant. Same applies to your downstairs "girl flower." Avoid the use of feminine deodorant sprays and other perfumed products if they irritate and dry your skin.

Psychological Issues For A Man

There are in some cultures a stigma that men who perform oral sex on a woman are less macho for doing so. My advice... get over it. There is nothing about a man going down on a woman that makes him less masculine... in fact most women will tell you that we find that VERY sexy.

The other issues for men is that they are concerned about performance) which hopefully this article will assist with) and again... the infamous smell factor. This is no different than a woman going down on a man who had not kept his hygiene up and gets a strong whiff of "ball rot." We all need to to take care of ourselves and for those men who find themselves with a woman who isn't... try taking an erotic shower with her, where you wash her as part of the foreplay. Either that or have her read an article like this one so she can begin to think about that factor for you!

A question I get asked often is about female ejaculation and whether or not it is safe to consume. The answer to that is yes, it is safe as long as you recognize that the risk factors for STDs is the same as your ejaculate so if practicing safe sex is of concern, please take that into consideration and use a dental dam.

Negative Attitude-

Imagine your woman lying on the bed. You pull her panties down as though you are trying to just get down to business. You open your mouth and begin methodically licking, going up and down with no variation, no passion and secretly, you just can't wait for this to be done. Then when she does orgasm, you demand your turn or get on with the mandatory cuddling you feel you have to do to appease her.

Positive Attitude-

Imagine your woman lying on the bed. You come in slowly from her ankles smiling at her while keeping eye contact. You teasingly strip the clothes off her entire body looking her over as though you can hardly contain yourself, while licking and rubbing her everywhere you touch. You slide your body against her, then downward now so your genitals are positioned over her knee while you toy with her inner thigh and pubic area. You run your fingers through her pubic hair and over her mound. Slowly you lick the outer lips of her vagina softly while gazing into her eyes showing your desire. Pulling her lips softly apart with your fingers you take some warming, flavored lubricant and run it up and down her opening and over her clit like pouring hot chocolate syrup onto a sundae you are about to devour. Licking her inner lips lightly and then sucking softly on them you move your finger up and down her now slickened pussy and use the other hand to keep her lips spread open as you slide your tongue deeper and deeper into her. You progress to teasing her clit with your tongue while you grind your genitals against her leg and finger her g-spot. Then after a variety of tantalizing techniques you eagerly await her orgasm letting her cum moisten your lips and face.

Are you seeing a difference here? Even if you decide to give a "Quickie," your attitude will allow you to be the best she's ever had. Women, just like men, want to feel desired, so to make her feel like orally pleasuring her is repulsive to you is certainly a "blow" to her ego. Show her that you desire her no matter what sexual activity you do and you will really make it fantastic.

Safe Oral Sex

There is a wide range of STDs you can get from sexual activity. At present there is some debate about genital warts developing in the digestive track and there is always the fear of HIV/AIDS infection. Always think SAFE SEX. 
 

Dental dams are often used in sexual situations to prevent sexually transmitted disease for cunnilingus (oral contact with female genitals) and analingus (oral/anal contact). They are six-inch squares of latex and were first used by oral surgeons. This is the best protection to prevent genital herpes infecting your lips, or a systemic yeast infection.

Dental dams are used by those who want to practice safer sex techniques by placing them between your tongue and your lovers labia or anus. For those of you who are too embarrassed to purchase one on-line or in a store, you can always purchase a latex glove and make your own.

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